Ah Mother’s Day.
What a fun yet stressful time. This year I was really trying
to get creative with my presents, but I was fresh out of ideas. I asked my
mother what she wanted, her response was a picture frame. A picture frame for
the woman who went through 9 months of carrying me in her uterus, went through
hours of labor to birth me, then spent years making sure I stayed alive (22 years
and 11 months to be exact because I definitely still do not know how to
navigate through life without her). A picture frame.
Anyways, the situation got me thinking, what the heck is
Mother’s Day all about? Like where did it come from? Why is Mother’s Day all
about giving Mom a day off, while Father’s Day is advertised as the day Dad
actually hangs out with his family? I have questions and I need answers!
Well instead of answers, I found myself mind boggled. I
Googled “Mother’s Day” and immediately saw “People are angry at Spotify over
this tweet,” what have you done Spotify I asked myself, and clicked away to
find this. A sexiest and ageist message. Maybe the people over at
Spotify have been hanging out with the Bud Light advertisement crew? (Seriously,
how do these people come up with this stuff and not get stopped??)
I started to think about it, and I’ve realized that I have
been seeing subliminally sexist messages all along. Like this one from Mother’s
Day last year:
As if all a woman wants for Mother's Day is a gift for the kitchen.
Companies are doing a surprisingly good job at playing into
gender stereotypes in a discreet way. Why do we always see commercials of the
stereotypical woman, at home in the kitchen or living room, taking care of the
children while cleaning the house, with dad nowhere to be found? Why can’t we
see more Mother’s Day ads that show the hardworking moms who do more than clean
the house and cook dinner? My mom is the breadwinner in my household, if her
priorities were like the mom’s portrayed in these advertisements, just holding
a baby in the air all day or using a Clorox wipe to clean the table, I probably wouldn’t
exist. My family would consist of my parents and my older brother. They would
not be able to afford an Alley.
Also, did you know that the US ranked 30th on the
“State of the World’s Mothers” report in 2013? The report takes into account
the well-being of women and their children in over 180 countries. The US fell
behind most of the developed world, which is extremely alarming. John Oliver did
a funny skit to touch on the topic of how we treat our women here in the US:
As for my mom, she did not get her picture frame. Mainly because I felt she deserved something more and partially because I couldn't find the one she was looking for (I'm helpless). However, she did have a good day and she cried happy tears over the presents she did get, as opposed to the pissed off tears she would have had if I bought her a small kitchen appliance.